number of lessons in estate planning that are applicable for parents and young adults. Because
of laws that control information and decisions with regard to medical treatment, it is imperative
that anyone over 18 have written advance medical directives in place. Necessary documents
include the designation of a healthcare proxy, a living will and a “HIPAA Release,” so that a
healthcare surrogate may communicate with providers about the care of a patient who is in a
coma or otherwise incapacitated. These documents and planning are no longer the exclusive
purview of seniors. This is unpleasant business, but young adults who are unable to
communicate their end-of-life wishes need to be as prepared as the elderly.
Parents of college-bound freshman age 18 and older need to have several documents prepared,
according to a NewsMax article, “End-of-Life Lessons of Bobbi Kristina's Tragic Death.” A
healthcare designation, a living will, HIPPA release, and durable power of attorney should be
standard documents prepared for the ‘new’ adult so that parents can act on behalf of their kids
if the unforeseen occurs.
Bobbi Kristina was only 22 and the only child of the late Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown.
She passed away after a very public six-month family fight over how to treat the comatose
Brown, after she was found face-down in a bathtub in the Atlanta townhome she shared with
her boyfriend Nick Gordon.
This story illustrates the difficulties families deal with when confronted with complex healthcare
decisions. The article emphasizes the need to create advance medical directives to help family
members of patients. These end-of-life instructions should be in a legal document, prepared by
an estate planning attorney so that it satisfies the requirements of state law. The directives
A Healthcare Designation. This is a very critical part of an advance directive, as a
“healthcare designation” or “healthcare proxy” names an individual you authorized to
make medical decisions for you, if you are unable to do so on your own. This friend or
relative is given what is also called “durable healthcare power of attorney (POA).” This
allows them to speak on your behalf.
A HIPPA Release. This allows your proxy to communicate with your healthcare providers
about your care.
A Living Will. This formal statement communicates your wishes for medical care should
you end up in a “persistent vegetative state” with little or no chance of recovery, and
you can’t communicate your wishes. Talk to an estate planning attorney as every state
has its own regulations for living wills.
Treatment Restrictions. You should spell out exactly the circumstances under which you
would want to have life-sustaining care or when you want to pass, many times with only
medication for pain. Distribute copies to your doctor, family members, and (if
appropriate) close friends. The article lists several specific treatments you might want to
o A Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) Order. This states that you do not want providers to
perform extraordinary measures (like CPR) if your heart or breathing stops.
o Mechanical Ventilation. State when and for how long you would want a
mechanical respirator to take over your breathing.
o Nutritional Assistance. Discuss your feelings about nutrition if you could only be
fed through an intravenous or stomach tube.
o Dialysis. Kidney failure can be the first step toward death in terminal patients.
State parameters around which you would want this treatment.
o Brain Death. State what you would want if your brain function was deemed
minimal or immeasurable.
o Organ Donation. Make your wishes known if you want to donate your organs
and tissues for transplantation.
It’s no shock that end-of-life planning is a difficult topic to discuss. Just 26.3% of Americans have
completed advance directives, according to a 2013 study. But as the Bobbi Kristina Brown case
shows, it’s important and never too early to discuss this topic with spouses, family members,
partners, adult children, and parents.
Contact us to talk about all your estate planning needs.
Reference: NewsMax (July 31, 2015) “End-of-Life Lessons of Bobbi Kristina's Tragic Death”